I found a test in Just Listen about pathologically needy people. Score these questions about a person with 1 (not at all), 2 (sometimes) and 3 (almost always.)

  • Does the person whine?
  • Does the person complain?
  • Does the person come off like a victim?
  • Does the person seem to be saying, “Feel sorry for me”?
  • Does the person want to be pitied?
  • Does the person cry or act deeply hurt when something doesn’t go his or her way?
  • Does the person attempt to make you feel guilty?
  • Does it seem to you that the person is a bottomless pit whose needs can’t ever be met?
  • Do you want to avoid the person?
  • Does your stomach get a knot whenever you receive a voice mail or e-mail from the person?
  • Do you feel like yelling at the person: “Toughen up!”?
  • Do you feel guilty because you find yourself rooting against the person?

If the person gets 12, it's low maintenance, between 13-24 it's medium maintenance and 25-36 is high maintenance.

He says medium maintenance people, consider if the relationship is worth it. He advises to leave from people with high maintenance before they suck the life out of you.

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